Thank you for the question on eternity with unhappy relationship, “I dislike my parents. Will I spend eternity with them?”
A thought for our consideration is that our perception of family and friends become clearer in eternity. Most children and even parents truly do not speak to each other. They just know the rules but not the circumstances that may have led them to enforce that rule. The parents do not know or understand why that is so important to them. All the parents know that it is bad for them.
For example, a parent may adamantly enforce no alcohol drinking or taking of drug to their children. Teenagers may think what’s wrong with a little beer or whiskey, smoking a joint at a social gathering or at home. Nearly everyone else is doing it. The teenager “hates” the parents for making such a stupid rule. That son or daughter may not know that their parents were abusive or negligent when they were young children. Their parents were to stone to care for them. They had to survive on their own. They have seen the devastation of alcohol or drugs on family and relatives. They don’t want their children to fall deeper and deeper into the drug culture.
Even though there are misunderstanding on earth, I believe in heaven the motivation and actions will be made clear to God and especially to family members. One must remember that one day, you may be a parent. You will be establishing family values and rules. It is likely that your children will disagree with your rules whether it is curfew, use of technology, recreational drugs, or even the usage of the car. One doesn’t know what it is like to have a son or daughter drive a car on their own at night whereby the parents wonder whether they are safe or doing something stupid. It’s fun for the teenager but frightening for the parents.
Take a moment to put yourself in their shoes. This may help you to establish a better communication and time with your parents on earth and into eternity. Remember when you are 18 or older, you can decide to never see your parents again on earth or for them to say the same to you. The ending of a relationship is hurtful and regret on earth. In eternity, one will have a different perspective on oneself and on one’s parents. They may not be as bad as one thinks.
For more perspectives:
https://www.quora.com/I-dislike-my-parents-Will-I-spend-eternity-with-them